Priorities When Raising Islamic Kids – Western Education Obsession
1) As soon as a child becomes a year old, we start buying toys for him or instilling the love of pictorial objects or cartoons into him…
2) The mother begins to teach him/her baby that: A is for Apple and B is for Ball, but doesn’t teach her baby that A is for Allah and B is for Bismillah continuously.
2)At the age of two or three, we take him into a day-care centre where his Western education journey begins.
3) At the age of 3, s/he is in nursery 1 or KG 1. Children ordinarily don’t like going to schools ‘cos they are not used to it. They prefer the company of Mummy at home. Thats why they all cry when going to school.
4) The child begins to observe:
#Everyday my mummy prepares me for school
#Under the sun or in the rain
#I have a unique uniform for school
#With time, the kid begins to love “schooling” because it looks to him like the utmost reason of existence.
-5) At the age of 5, he is in Primary one:
#Everyday, the parents wakes him up for school
but not for fajr
#He is quickly bathed on school days but not during weekends
#His hair is combed and his nails trimmed so that he won’t be beaten in school for dirtiness
#Everyday his assignments are checked by his parents but no one bothers about his Islamiyyah assignments
#His school fees are paid on time bt no one cares about his Islamiyyah dues.
#The father takes him to school early “before” assembly but the father doesn’t take him to Juma’ah early “before” the Khutbah.
#The child begins to reason about all these. So he becomes more inclined to school than Islamiyyah!
6) When exams are approaching, the parents be like:
“Hey, no sleeping tonight, you gotta read, you must come first in class”
#So the child begins to burn the night candles but no one orders him to wake up for tahajjud, “…he should be tired. After all, he READ overnight…!!!”
##His parents be like:
“I will buy WHATEVER you want for you if you come out with flying colours”
But, alas!!! no one makes such promises concerning his Islamiyyah exams.
##During exam periods, parents be like:
Hey, no more TV until you finish your exams, no more visiting of friends, no more football bla bla bla.
###So the child begins to see exam periods as a kinda mini judgement day!
This is how a child’s impression about Western education is “conditioned” to look so great to him as if its the first purpose of creation!
#LONG TERM EFFECTs…
On the long run, the child begins to think wild, read wide about life and worldly things, but hardly thinks about the hereafter.
1) He doesn’t cry when going to school anymore ‘cos he is used to staying away from home. Because of this, he wants a boarding school or he wants admission into a uni that’s far away from home! (Especially our Muslim girls)!!
2) They don’t wanna be under mum’s control anymore. They wanna become their own “boss”!
3) When a teenager gets an admission into any institution, he goes crazy, jubilating, and celebrating but when he is given an admission into an Halqah (study circle), he doesn’t even wear a smile on his face!
3) They now have big dreams, career obsession, “I wanna become a Professor by all means”, but the young lad doesn’t care about becoming a scholar of the Deen! And the parents too be like: ‘If u come out wit first class, I will send you to “America” for your Masters’…
4) The child’s obsession about western education increases the more! So s/he wants to earn dat first class by all means, even by offering herself to the lecturer or sorting his lecturer!
4) That’s why you see that when Undergraduates finally graduate from the University after their final exams, they go crazy, jubilating, staining their shirts wit markers, dancing, jumping, partying as if they have won a ticket to Jannah, you won’t blame them, that’s because western education has been made to look like a TROPHY to them!
5) They are graduates and their spoken English is mindblowing but they can’t recite Suratul Faatihah with Tajweed!
6) They contest and compete for SUG presidents, class monitors, school association Presidents. But when it comes to Sallah, they go and stay at the last line!
7) When its time for NYSC, the Muslim girls won’t hesitate to wear shorts and t-shirts, they “happily” run, jog and do exercises with men, dance and partake in MissNYSC because they don’t give a damn what the religion says about all these because they already believe “anything” is worth sacrificing for education to prevail.
##Because education has been made to look like a competition while religion has been made to look like an “option”!
1) This obsession, makes our women refuse to get married until they have bagged degrees and masters!
2) It makes the men lazy to prepare for marriage until they have gotten a well paying job, a car, a house and a professorship.
3) It makes our women quote western “proverbs” often rather than quoting Ahaadith.
4) Our children love soccer, artistes and celebrities but they can’t mention 10 Companions of the Prophet
5) Our children now have a whole room full of novels, western books, encyclopedias and the likes but the only islamic book they have at home is the Quran!
6) Our kids now think, being an “elite” is the ultimate success while those “Imams” are illiterates who are losers in this world!
7) When that student finally gets a job, he becomes “obsessed” with it too at the detriment of his Deen.
8) He goes to work everyday including sundays
9) He is always on business trips
10) He leaves home for work before his kids wake up and he goes back home late when his kids are already asleep.
11) During Fajr, he is on his way speeding to work, during Dhuhr, he is busy with office duty, during Asr he is in a board meeting, during maghrib he is just closing for d day, during Isha, he is stuck in the traffic jam, when he gets home he combines all his Salawaat “if” he has the strength!
In summary, this is the kind of AQEEDAH that our obsession for western education has instilled in us, if not for the timely guidance that Alllah has bestowed on us, how many are people out there who are still wallowing in this pool of ignorance thinking dey are d successful ones? Am not saying we shouldn’t go to sch, surely islam encourages education but not to the extreme or at d detriment of Deen!
Suggest the possible solution yourselves as two good heads are better than one!
May Allah forgive and guide us, ameen!